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Finding love and romance among adventure on the road

Thousands of single women and men own or operate an RV on a full- or part-time basis. Many of these singles are also actively involved in the dating scene. Some effectively use one or more dating sites, while others may have decided that online dating is too complex or time consuming when attempted from an RV.

The primary purpose of this article is to help RVers recognize the opportunities for RV online dating. This information is applicable to single women and men, ages 18 to 99.

An estimated 100 or more dating sites clog the Internet.  Dating sites are designed to attract the attention (and the money) of men and women who wish to contact others with similar interests. These interests may range from being a Christian (Christian Singles) to being porn addicts (Adultfriendfinder.com).

Most dating sites provide photos, profiles and, often questions and answers, which help the searcher to determine the potential degree of chemistry between two clients. Many dating sites attempt to identify the type of person to whom each member is attracted as based on the photos and profiles of clients who has been contacted or made a favorite. The site will then offer numerous matches to choose from, often selecting a “special one, just for you.”

Using selective search methods, singles may find prospective mates who seek monogamy, friends with benefits, long- or short-term relationships, dating only, casual friendships, travel partners or hiking and biking partners.

People who live in a stationary location, regardless of the size of the city, town or region, are limited in the numbers of single, eligible men and women in the available dating pool.  Most singles wish to meet other singles who live or work within a defined distance  from their own established home or work site.  Also, within this radius there are only a limited number of churches, bars, coffee shops, supermarkets and other potential meeting places to frequent while in search of a mate.

However, in recent years online dating sites have vastly expanded the opportunities for meeting potential friends and mates.

The RV lifestyle has essentially eliminated all or most of the restrictions imposed by the traveling distance factors.  If an RVer wishes to meet a person who lives 500 to 2,000 miles away and feels strongly about a meeting, he or she can hit the road and drive to the selected location, park in a suitable RV resort and arrange a meeting time and place with the chosen acquaintance.  If the meeting/greeting does not work out, then it is an easy step to search again in the selected zip code for another available single.

Whether online dating is a serious effort on your part to find a compatible mate — “the chosen one” or “my soulmate” — or if it is a challenging dating game for you, the results can be improved by searching from an RV.  The advantages of being a full-time RVer dating online include:

  • The dating scene is vastly expanded, as is the number of clients with the same interests.  Within the confines of the highway system there is no limit to the geographic area for online dating.
  • The RVing lifestyle is often new, different, exciting and interesting to prospective dates.
  • Several RV singles groups offer online dating sites with possible, compatible choices for both men and women’s single RVers.
  • Time is less of a limiting factor because there are fewer upkeep issues with RVers, than with houses.
  • More diverse opportunities, activities and places are available for first meetings and followup dates.
  • An RVer may make the choice to relocate to be with a new friend, or they may choose to mutually share their lifestyles, wherever they may be.
  • An RVer may choose to become stationary for the “right one.”
  • An RVer has much to offer potential mates who enjoy nature and wish to travel.
  • RV travel is a low-cost method of meeting multiple people, in far flung locations, in a relatively short time.
  • If the meeting or dating does not go well, an RVer can move on down the highway in search of a more compatible relationship.

Of course, there are some disadvantages to trying to date while RVing full or part time, such as:

  • It may be necessary to travel some distance to connect with a prospect.
  • Prospects may have been less than honest in their profile and photos.
  • A prospect may not like your RV, your lifestyle and may not respond to your email.
  • A prospect may become too attached to you too quickly.

I have enjoyed meeting people online while RVing for years. Here’s how I make the most of the opportunities.

Firs, obtain the postal zip code of the next destination on your itinerary by going to the web site USPS.com. There you may enter a known address or PO Box number in the city of your destination and the zip code will appear.

Next, go to the search page of the dating site and begin a search in that zip code area. Also, change your own location to coincide with that of the search area. Begin the search for prospects within a 10-mile radius of the zip code. Gradually increase the radius until an adequate number of eligible prospects appear.

Just like any online dating arrangment, you may begin your search with the specifications for physical, mental and spiritual interests, skills and abilities, financial and educational characteristics. The search may be expanded or restricted to elicit the number of clients who meet the selected qualifications.

Often keyword searches are very helpful in finding several prospective mates in new locations. It may be wise to verify and identify the prospective date prior to the first meeting or as soon as you can obtain sufficient personal information to do so.

I have been using several different dating sites online for more than seven years. It is not my purpose here to evaluate any or all of these dating sites because each single person has a different agenda and diverse dating goals. I suggest that each person conduct a small research project to help determine which site is best for their particular needs. Look carefully at the specifications for the site to ascertain the number, quality, diversity, reliability, availability and desirability of  prospects on the site.

Note: a few dating sites offer free memberships, particularly Plenty of Fish (www.pof.com), but most charge from $20 per month to $120 per year for membership fees. This tends to weed out trolls from people truly interested in seeking a relationship.

In many ways, the first meet/greet experience is very much the same, whether you travel in an RV or live in a stationary location. There are similar fears, hesitations, anticipation, excitement and expectations when meeting for the first time. RVing does arouse both curiosity and envy in the minds of many people.

The Results

When one or more prospects respond, then you must use well-chosen words to contact the person because the respondent, whether male or female, may perceive an RVer as a “fly-by-night” or “just passing through” type of person.

Once a conversation and communication have been established, the opportunity to meet and to communicate in person further depends on both people involved. As with dating between people living in a stationary location, both members may have to make adjustments in their schedules to accommodate the travel and meeting needs of the other.

Using these methods, I have met in person for coffee, lunch, dinner or hiking, more than 350 very nice ladies in locations ranging from Alaska and Florida to Indiana and California, and most of the states in between.

It works for me, or since I am still single, perhaps it has not worked for me, but I remain optimistic.

About Dr. Bob Gorden

Dr. Bob Gorden is an RVer, hiker and writer. He has a PhD in microbial ecology from the University of Georgia in Athens. He is a retired research scientist from the University of Illinois Natural History Survey. He has owned and operated more than 55 RVs of various types, and has visited every state, except Hawaii, in his RV. He also traveled by RV in New Zealand, Canada and Mexico. He currently owns and travels in a 1978 GMC 26-foot Class A and 2013 Thor ACE 30.1 Class A motorhome. He has a compelling desire to be “On the Road Again!”

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